We all experience moments in our lives when there seems to be zero momentum. When there is nothing to propel us from point A to point B, we are feeling stuck in life and not sure what to do to change things.
If you find yourself amongst the stuck, here are 5 things to do in order to get your life back on track and moving once again in the right direction!
Be objective about your life – This is important because there is no one in this world who is going to be a worse critic of you than yourself. Sometimes we need resting periods in our lives. Perhaps you are not as stuck as you think you are and you are just being hard on yourself. Try stepping back and being objective about your life. What would you think of you if you were someone else looking in?
Change your perception – This is similar to being objective about your life. Remember what Shakespeare said? “It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.” Sometimes a simple change in perspective is all that is needed in order to become unstuck in your life. There is a choice to let go of the notion that you are stuck and start moving again.
Ask yourself how you got stuck in the first place – Although, we are the creator of own destinies, there are true moments in life when life holds you back. It seems that no matter what you do, things just don’t work out for you. Also known as cosmic misalignment, this can difficult. At this point in your life, the best thing to do is look back and find the exact moment your life went off course. If you can find the misalignment, you can get back on course. Ask yourself the following questions: did you make a wrong decision you are not aware of that you need to learn from in order to become a better person in your life? Do you have certain emotions, perhaps you need to grieve or make peace with someone in your life, that is the root emotional block of you moving on in your life?
Make a plan to dig yourself out – Once you have identified what has gotten you into a place that you feel stuck in your life, then you can begin to dig yourself out. You can accomplish that by going back to the root cause and doing the work to repair the damage that set you off course, to begin with.
Stop being in denial and blaming others for your choices – Often times people who are stuck in life like to blame other things or people. They look at themselves as the victims of their life rather than the cause. You may tell yourself such things as, “If it wasn’t for cause A, I would never be in situation B.” It’s time to stop being in denial and realize that even though bad things have happened, those bad things are no longer in control of your life. Only you can change your life at this point.
Sending much love your way as you learn to open your heart space for the most important person in your life. YOU!
And if you are feeling a little stuck in life and looking for some direction or help, listen to the Heal Your Story with Heidi Dellaire Podcast.
Related Articles: How to Stop Pushing Away the People You Love
©Love Wide Open
I am so glad I found Love wide open . 2018 for me was s year of discovering 23and me thinking I would help research but the traumatizing statements and DZnA relationships have actually caused so much stress after all these years I am not even who I thought I was . I need emotional support unlike I have ever needed in my life I My life is full of low back pain and s feeling like I can’t move forward because actually it’s all so overwhelming I wish Zi had the money to go to a white beach and just relax for a few weeks to sort out and recover from so much emotional trauma however I fo not have the money for such luxury even though my physical therapist seems to think that is the best prescription for me . So in the mean time I will be here looking at this and see if I can find hope in all this emotional and physical pain of confusion and heartache. The new year is here oh how I wish I could warm up on a nice beach and have some healing time . Today that seems impossible so I’ll just follow this and see where it leads . This caught my attention for some reason do it has my h divided attention for the moment. I am glad I found it because after opening Pandora’s box I am looking for some hope to be productive again to be healed from so much emotional and physical pain and to be happiness .
Hi Kathy,
Thank you for your very heartfelt comment. I am happy for you that you are taking 2019 as a year to look further into your healing. Trauma can change us, but we can also change how it affects us. Thank you for following us here. I hope you can find some articles that may help in your process. Sending you lots of love and healing. ~Heidi