“To be brave is to love someone unconditionally, without expecting anything in return.” — Madonna
In talks about relationships, you may often hear how important it is to love someone unconditionally no matter what happens. The concept is most readily understood in matters of parent-child relationships, however, it is just as important if not more so in the romantic relationships as well.
The question many of us have, though, isn’t if we should love unconditionally, it is how do you do it? What exactly does it mean to love this way? Does it mean you love at no costs? To a certain extent, yes, however, it’s important to understand that loving someone no matter what and allowing someone to repeatedly hurt you are two different concepts.
Here’s what it means to love someone unconditionally:
Accept them for who they are, faults and all.
We all have faults, that’s what makes us human. Even more, that’s what makes us individuals. When you can truly embrace someone for ALL their qualities, including their faults, you are choosing to love unconditionally.
Go out of your way for them no matter what the distance.
Loving someone unconditionally sometimes means you have to go travel great emotional distances to meet them. This isn’t always the most fun thing to have to do, but it is the road unconditional love will take you.
When they are happy, you are happy.
Unconditional love creates a special bond between two people. Their happiness and yours become so closely tied that making them happy is what you must do to be happy yourself. It’s the ties that unconditional love creates between two people:
It pleases you to be around them.
When you love someone unconditionally you always want to be around that person. You always want to be there for them, especially when they are sad. That’s when they need your love the most. Unconditional love is the love that draws you closer to your lover when they are the hardest to reach emotionally.
You are open to living their way of life.
Before your lover, you were likely quite set in your ways. You probably thought you wouldn’t change for anything. When you love someone so deeply you will accept them wholeheartedly. Their way of life will become your way of life too.
You are quick to forgive.
When you love someone unconditionally you really forgive them for their mistakes before they even make them. That doesn’t mean you’re giving them a golden ticket to mess up, it just means forgiveness comes easily.
We could go on for pages about qualities that make up unconditional love, but these are a few important ones to understand. The key to living a long healthy relationship is forgiveness, acceptance, and unconditional love for both your partner and for yourself.
Thanks for tuning in. Wishing you much wisdom and health in your relationship as you find a path to loving more unconditionally.
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