Having a happier existence means that no matter what is happening in your life right now, you feel happy to be alive. You are satisfied with the things life offers you and, although, you may have goals for the future, you have feelings of purpose in the life you currently have. Doesn’t this sound like a marvelous place to be?
There are times that even the most positive of people falter. We all experience moments of darkness and that can’t be changed. However, there are certain rules you can live by that will allow for a healthier happier existence. Here are five pointers to get you started on the right track to a destination of love, peace, and happiness.
Learn from the past, but don’t dwell there:
This is a category we have covered a lot here in Love Wide Open. Remaining in the moment. When you dwell on the past, especially where negative emotions live, it becomes difficult to move on to a more positive way of living. To learn from past experiences and emotions you’ve been through is a positive thing, but when you make that past your current reality, it is not doing you any favors.
Give yourself third-party advice:
Okay so this may sound funny, but it really works! When there is something in your mind that is bothering you, grab your journal and pretend your problems are really your best friend’s problems and write yourself a page of advice. It doesn’t stop there, follow your own advice and see where it brings you.
Don’t be so stubborn, first impressions of situations are often based on emotion and very wrong:
When you feel bad inside, often the world is perceived in a negative way. In reality, the world has no biased against you personally. People are not out to get you. In fact, is that attitude of defensiveness that causes most of your problems. How so? Because you interpret the world negatively, you respond negatively. When you are perceived by others negatively, you get negative responses back. Where does the cycle end? That’s a good question. That is up to you. The cycle ends with you.
Don’t give up on yourself:
Life is a journey and you must be accepting of where you are at on your journey of self-discovery. Self-loathing, anger, negativity, and depression don’t cease overnight. You will make the same mistakes over and over again. The worst thing you can do is to give up on yourself. If you mess up, if you fall into your old ways, that’s okay. Changing your mindset, retraining your brain is a process that takes time. Praise yourself for making changes and use the experience of self-disappointment to do better next time. No one is perfect all the time and we all have moments of negativity. It’s what is part of making us human.
Associate with emotionally healthy people:
If you have been dealt a rough hand in your life, one of the best things that you can do is to align yourself with positive, emotionally healthy people. You may feel like they are not your “kind” or like you’re not good enough to fit in there, but you are! You deserve to be happy. You deserve to do things that make you experience life in more positive ways, so try and align yourself with others who can teach you how to accomplish this.
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