When facing great challenges in life it is very easy to blame other people and situations for our pain. Invariably, you will find that accepting responsibility for yourself and your life is the only way to bring about lasting change.
Blaming others is easy. Anyone can do it. Accepting responsibility, however, requires action on our part. We blame others because it allows us to be mad at them about the problem instead of finding the solution. This makes us feel better at the moment because it gives us an excuse to take our dissatisfaction out on others. And although it may bring us a diluted sense of temporary relief, it does not make anything better.
We cannot change others, but we always have the power to change our own situation. When we blame others, however, we give our power away to them.
Your life is absolutely your responsibility. You have the power to change your situation, and you deserve to live your best life. It is up to you to give it to yourself.
No matter who you are, where you came from or what you have or have not done, you deserve happiness and fulfillment. You deserve a beautiful life. You deserve to wake up every morning excited for the day; in celebration for what may come. You deserve to wear a smile almost all the time, and you deserve to know that it is okay when you’re not wearing one. You deserve to love and to be loved. You can have all of this and more.
You can live in a perpetual state of enthusiasm and gratitude. You can find a place inside of you that feels grateful for all that is, all that has been and all that is yet to come. You will be grateful even for your challenges, for they have helped make you who you are. You can love and be loved. You can be so full of gratitude that you can feel its warmth inside of your physical body. You can be intrinsically happy. But it is you that must find this place, and your journey begins when you accept full responsibility for your life, where you are and where you’re going.
Here are a few ways to start on your journey to your best life:
1. Accept responsibility for your life and trust the process.
This is by far the most important step in creating an incredible life for yourself. You must make a no-nonsense decision that you can and will create whatever you desire for yourself through an unwavering dedication to acceptance of responsibility. Remember, you cannot change others so any energy spent on attempting to do so is of no avail anyway. And above all, you must have complete faith in yourself and your ability to be awesome. Your faith must be so strong that even when things appear to go “wrong” you are not discouraged. You know that everything is always working out for your good in the end. You know with every ounce of your being that as long as you continue to do the right thing and move forward, it will be okay.
This leads us to number two…
2. Always do the right thing.
Do the right thing on your good days and bad days. Do the right thing in front of others and when no one is watching. Do the right thing with the people you like and the people you don’t like. Stand in your integrity, no matter what. Yes, you will make mistakes and that is okay. But you will make those mistakes standing in your integrity. You will always do your best and that is the best you can do. But you will not knowingly and willingly sacrifice your integrity. You can forgive yourself for not knowing what you didn’t know before you learned it. You can be kind to others because you know that they too are doing their best with whatever it is they have. Do the right thing and treat others with respect and dignity and you will be blessed. This is the law of the universe.
3. Take inventory of yourself.
Self-inventory proves itself as a difficult task for many people. Which is why we are so quick to blame others because we so desperately evade looking at ourselves. But look at ourselves we must, if we wish to accept complete responsibility for our lives and find lasting fulfillment. When you get used to looking at yourself, it’s really not that bad. And it gives you the great power to make changes in your life. All you have to do is step back and look at yourself when you face adversity. If you go through an undesirable situation, you must look for a solution in yourself. No matter what the situation or who is at fault, focus on yourself and how you react.
Focus on making the best choices for yourself. Decide exactly who you want to be and practice being that person. Be honest with yourself when you have been making decisions based on fear or being judgmental and unforgiving. It’s okay if you have things to work on, we all do. You are not supposed to be perfect. Take your inventory and reflect on how you would like to improve. You’re just taking a look at where you’re at on your journey to your best self.
By taking full responsibility for your life, you are accepting responsibility for your life choices. When we realize that we are responsible for the choices we make, we begin to make better ones. Start making the right choices in your life today, and you will unlock the power to live your best life.
Now get out there and live your BEST LIFE! ~Heidi
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