“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”
Everyone makes mistakes, right? Well, yes that is true, but let’s face it, knowing that doesn’t really make anyone feel better after they have screwed up, especially if it is what seems to them to be a really big screw up. So where does that leave you? Most likely crying in a dark hole of self-pity, depression, and self-hate. But listen, it shouldn’t be that way. You CAN bounce back, we promise. It just takes a little effort and self-help to get there. When you do bounce back, you will be better for it and stronger because of it.
Here’s What To Do To Recover From A Big Mistake In Life:
Grieve- Surprised to see this category? Any time you suffer a loss, grief is a necessary step in the healing process. When you fail or screw up something that is important to you, you lose your image, the name you have built up for yourself, your self-respect, and perhaps even the respect of others. To you, it is a big deal and it is important to take the time you need to heal those wounds.
Damage Control- Now that you have sufficiently allowed yourself to grieve, it’s time to get out of bed and take some responsibility for your action. You can’t turn back time, but you can be present during the future. Now it is time to salvage whatever you can from the situation, so take a good look around and ask yourself, how can you make that happen?
Own up to your mistakes- Now comes the hardest part for many people. It is time to own up to your mistakes and apologize to the necessary parties. This is no time to point fingers and make excuses. This is time for you to go to the party that was the most affected by your screw up and tell them all the things you could have and will do better the next time. It is painful, but once you make it through this stage you are almost out of that lonely black hole of sadness we mentioned before.
Let go and move on– Now that the situation has been remedied, it is time to let it all go in your mind. Stop beating yourself up over the situation. Remember you can not change the decisions you have made in your life, you can only make better ones the next time around. Let go of the situation, forgive yourself and remember just enough to contribute to the creation of a wiser you the next time around.
Forgive- that brings us to our next and last category and that is to forgive. Forgive yourself, and forgive the situation and the people involved. Forgiving is part of the process of letting go.
If you find yourself in a rut remember this quote from Daphne Rose Kingma: “Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.”
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