One of the toughest things in life to do is to let go of something that is causing pain. When you become a vessel of pain and circumstance, you begin to lose sight of yourself. Try and imagine, for a moment, if the pain was a physical substance and so was your spirit and they lived together in a room that was your body. That room is yours and you are allowing the pain to live there. How long are you willing to let that pain hijack your life?
If you have pain that is holding you back from being happy, it’s time you leave your fear behind and make the choice to be happy.
Here’s what you need to know:
What it means to be afraid
Ask yourself what it is you are afraid of losing but letting go of. For example, are you having trouble letting go of a loved one who passed away, or getting over a hard break up? Ask yourself what is the real reason you cannot let go of the pain this has caused you? Is it because you feel that is all you have left of the ceased? Are you afraid to admit that the love you once felt will be gone forever? Perhaps you feel guilty or ashamed about something that transpired and you feel that you deserve to withstand the pain or you fear what will happen if you let go of it. Whatever the fear is, it is important first and foremost to identify it.
Fear is the mind killer
Once you are able to identify the underlying fear of why you cannot let go of your pain, then you are well on your way of letting it go. That is because fear lies out of necessity and naivety (a detrimental combination). It tells you that if you let go of the pain from a loss then that person and that love will be lost forever, but that is not necessarily true. In fact, it is quite the opposite. It is the process of letting go of the pain that allows you to experience again the love of the past. Letting go is a beautiful thing.
Letting go is choosing to be happy
Realize that you must be the catalyst for letting go. Letting go of pain doesn’t just happen, you have to make it happen. You have to overcome the lies that fear tells you. You have to be brave and conquer the fear and pain. Happiness is a gift that one gives to themselves and if you are sitting around and waiting to get it from another source, you are going to be waiting a very long time!
At the end of the day, you have the choice. Do you want to live with the pain or do you want to move on and give yourself a shot at happiness? Either way, when you take the time to understand the fear that is driving you to hold on so tightly, you will be one step closer to recovery.
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