Most people fear change, or at the very least become anxious about it. Where this is a very natural response to change, it is generally unnecessary. Why? Because a time of change means it’s time to embrace new opportunities and new gifts into your life. Even bad changes, such as grief and death, can create internal change within you. You are given the gift during these times or opportunity to decide what that change will be. Will it be a good change that makes you a better person or a not so good one? The illusion is not that we are in control, but that we are out of control when change happens.
“Raise the rest of your life to meet you.” – Peter Drinklage
Whilst it is true that we do not have control of external change, we do have control over the change that takes place within us. How does that work exactly? First, you must embrace the change and understand exactly what it is about it that you are opposing in the first place.
Here’s are a few reasons why we fear change:
Uncertainty is unsettling:
It can be very unsettling not knowing what is going to happen. But that is life. If you allow those feelings to prevent you from making a change, or allow yourself to ignore change already on your doorstep, it does nothing but holds you back from living.
Fear of the unknown:
The unknown is a scary place. So don’t dwell there! Get out and discover the change, discover your life. Most likely, the unknown is going to bring hardship and pain, but it will also bring happiness and love. The fact that we don’t know what the future holds is an admission that you are not in control of your own life and your own destiny. Where this is true in one sense, in another, it is not the case at all. There is the unknown, which will happen either way. There is the unknown with uncontrolled fear, which is much much worse. You are in control of your own emotions and your own response to change.
How to embrace change:
Sometimes embracing change is hard. Especially when that change is something that is difficult to accept, such as the passing of a loved one or a parents’ divorce. The first step in embracing change, both good and bad, is to seek out and nourish the good. It is easy to accept bad things when good things come from it. You cannot control death or divorce or change that comes from the world out of your control. But you have been gifted with the power to create good from that change. But first, you must accept it and do not allow yourself to dwell on the fact that it’s unfair. Life is unfair, but it’s also fair. You just have to look for the justice.
At the end of the day, life and change and time, they are all the same. We cannot control them, but we must accept that they are a part of who we are both good and bad. If you do not embrace it and use it to create good, it will control your life.
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