No matter how strong your relationship is, it’s always going to have ups and downs. It’s the nature of the beast. Sometimes in order to get to where you need to be in a relationship, you must travel through obstacles, both good and bad, fun and…well…not so fun. There are times in a relationship where the challenges help us grow closer in the end.
If things in your relationship feel like they’re hitting rock bottom, here’s some advice to help you get through. Because let’s face it, nothing has the ability to make you feel as bad as a fight does with the person you love the most in the world.
Sometimes Bad Things Happen For Good Reasons– For example, a fight is a terrible time, but sometimes it is necessary to get issues out in the open. When the issues are out, it allows you both to open up and move on to the next (and hopefully) more bearable phase of your relationship.
Obstacles Make You Stronger– We mentioned that sometimes you need to go through obstacles. This is true of life in general and this is true in relationships. Not every day is smooth sailing on a sailboat, but it shouldn’t stop you from going out into the water.
Love Endures– Are you listening closely? This is an important one. No matter how tough things seem to get in your relationship, always remember that real love has the power to endure all.
Love Is Like A House– It requires maintenance and care but will keep you safe and warm. What else is there to say about this category? Love is like a house. If you let it fall to ruins, you will have a much tougher time restoring it to its grandeur. Maintenance is key to happy marriages and relationships even when maintenance feels like a drab waste of time.
Remember Why You Fell In Love– Remember all the things you loved about each other when you first met? Nothing has changed, right? Keep in mind that all couples go through tough times, it doesn’t mean the love is gone. You might just have to polish it up a little.
Remember To Take Care Of Yourself– Often relationships get tough because one person stopped looking out for their own well-being. Resentment sets in and one feels empty and stops giving. This leaves the other person feeling confused. Be understanding and always remember the other person’s point of view. Likewise, it is your job to take care of you and that’s a big responsibility to place upon another.
Resentment Does Not Fix Any Situation– There’s an old term that says that resentment only harms the container it is stored in. Feeling resentment, believe it or not, is a choice. If you choose to embrace it, it will tear your relationship apart. Instead, realize that we are all human and we all make mistakes. Try letting go of the resentment and replacing it with good thoughts about your partner instead.
Relationships, being in one or not and doing the work to make one work or not, are actually a choice. You must choose if your love is strong enough to endure the hard times. If the answer is yes and you choose to do the work, you are no longer ignoring the opportunity to experience a love as you’ve never experienced before.
So get out the polish, dust off the layers and let your love shine through.
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