Rejection is a part of life. It’s something that everyone has to experience at some point in their lives and most likely multiple times. Yet, knowing this detail doesn’t seem to make it any easier. If it’s rejection in love or rejection on a job search or any rejection at all, here’s a few ways to cope with the sometimes detrimental feelings it can cause.
“When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection or disapproval. Putting a voice to your soul helps you to let go of the negative energy of fear and regret.” – Shannon L. Alder
How To Deal With Rejection:
Recognize how you are feeling.
How does the rejection make you feel? Probably not very good. But ask yourself why. If you are being rejected by your lover, recognize the hurt and why it hurts. Understanding and acknowledging your feelings is the first step to dealing with rejection of any kind. Do you feel like less of a person because you didn’t get a job? Do you feel ugly because your partner didn’t want to be sexually active that day? Whatever you are feeling is going to point to insecurities. The rejection is a great opportunity to learn how to work on the insecurities you have been ignoring.
Embrace the scenario.
You might be thinking, “wait, did I read that right?” Yes, you did actually. Rejection is an important part of growth, in anything that you do. the universe works in mysterious ways. Good things always find the cracks in negative spaces and shine through as a result. For example, your spouse may have left you, but what you don’t know is that the person you will become after is a better version of you. That better version will attract a better lover. The same goes for losing a job or any other form of rejection. The secret is to embrace the rejection and as a result of it become a better version of yourself.
Learn from the rejection and get better as a result.
That brings us to the last category and that is to become better as a result of your rejection. If none of us were ever rejected for any reason then we would always think and feel perfect. Likely we can all admit that perfection is something that no one has. Sometimes in order to get better, whether it is at a skill or as a person and soul, we must suffer the rejection that makes us realize our imperfections. It’s the only way we grow.
In the long term, when handled with care and attention, rejection can be a good thing in your life. Rejection is very powerful, but how it works in your Life is your choice. You can choose to be beaten down and squandered like an insect by it. Or, you can use it as a tool to make a better life for yourself. Remember, it’s like what Joseph Campbell said, “You have to be willing to leave the life that you planned in order to find the one waiting for you.”
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